What I Meant To Say Was…

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Earlier this week a friend asked me to be on her podcast. Not just a random podcast that will never be heard by anybody but her mama, but a legit one, with real-life listeners that live all over the place and stuff.

We chatted for about an hour about prayer—my all over the place and experimental prayer life specifically. During our whole talk I was trying to explain things out loud and in my mind I was thinking, “you sound like a weirdo.” I spent part of my drive home that night wondering if I was strange or crazy for some of the stuff I’d shared. I still haven’t gotten an answer back on that yet, but no worries! My self-esteem is in tact. :)

Over the course of the next day, my only two thoughts were, “that was fun!” and “I hope it is encouraging to someone.” And then on the third day after our convo, I listened to it. And oh man. It’s so strange listening to yourself.

Thoughts like, “Man, I should’ve said this” and “Did that make sense?” and “I hope I didn’t say the wrong thing here…” started flooding my mind. You know how it goes.

My reflections on that podcast have led me here today to do two things:

  1. Actually share from my own mouth that this podcast happened. (As of right now, I’ve only re-tweeted one tweet that my friend posted about it).
  2. Share two things that I wish I’d mentioned during the podcast.

So I guess I already accomplished number one since I told you it exists. I’ll include a link at the bottom of this post for you to check it out.


I first wanted to share a few books that spurred me into a more consistent, strategic and bold prayer life. They are:

The Circle Maker by Mark Batterson, The Kneeling Warrior by David Ireland and Prayer by Timothy Keller


I highly recommend all three & you can click their covers to get them on Amazon.



The second thing I wanted to share is one of the most vital aspects of my prayer life: My prayer partner.

She has been crucially important to my prayer life in so many ways. There is a special power and confidence that comes when we pray together.

I could dedicate an entire blog post to this girl and how much she means to me. Not to mention the way God brought us together is such a cool and random story…it all started with a conversation about hair. God will use anything ya’ll!

But seriously, Emonne and I have been prayer partners since October 2013. After getting to know each other over the course of a year and realizing how unified our hearts were in many areas, I asked her if we could start praying together every week. Since then, we have prayed specifically and fervently for each other and for those things that we first found as mutual heart tuggers…does that even make any sense?

Heart Tuggers = Things we are both passionate about and care about.

That’s what I’m trying to say there.

There have been times over the course of these almost two years as prayer partners, that I honestly DID NOT want to pray for different reasons, but having that accountability forced me to push through and pray during the times when I’d rather not even utter a word of Thanksgiving to God.

She has been a rock— iron sharpening iron for real. Our prayer times are not just cute and short, we get it in and I’m so thankful for a friend who has gone with me on this journey of learning how to pray boldly and has challenged me to pray specifically and consistently.

It’s amazing how God will even give us visions for each other or the people we’re praying for during our prayer time together. We write those visions down so that we can remember them. Many of them have come to pass and many more are just on the cusp of being answered—we can see it. Between the two of us, our faith remains high and I’m so thankful. 

I really believe we all should make it a point to not just pray strategically on our own, but also in community. There are two primary reasons I believe this:

Reason #1:

I think this prayer partnership is important first and foremost because it’s biblical. Like out of the mouth of Jesus Himself, biblical.

“For where two or three are gathered in my name, there I am among them” –Matthew 18:20

“Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven.” – Matthew 18:19

“Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.” – James 5:16

Reason #2:

The second reason I think having a prayer partner is important is because it makes for a more credible story. The reason why the Bible is so credible is because there were so many eyewitness accounts to back the stories that fill its pages.

Just as an eyewitness is key to a court case in today’s world, Emonne and I get the privilege of being eyewitnesses to the things we have prayed for. We get to testify about the goodness of God not just in our own lives, but in each other’s lives, and in the lives of the people we set aside time to pray for each week!

Oh! Which makes me think of a third bonus thing I’d like to include in this post.


I was talking to one of my best friends this week about prayer and she brought up a very good point. She reminded me of how important it is to pray for what God wants us to pray for.

I started doing this with my own prayer time and my prayer partner and I do it every week as well, but I’m just really realizing the significance of it.

Before Emonne and I pray, we make a list together. The majority of that list making time involves us sitting quietly to hear what God wants us to cover during our prayer time. It’s so neat how often times He will give us the same or similar word for someone or He’ll give Emonne a vision that matches a word I was given.

We should ask God what to pray. What things does He want us to cover? Who has He assigned to us? What country or city should we be consistently praying for? What world issue has He placed on our hearts to cover?

There are specific territories that I believe we’re each called to cover. Imagine if we were all on our posts, what a difference that would make in this world.

There is power, great power, in agreement and strategy.

Reflect & Respond

Do you have a prayer partner? If so, how have they changed your prayer life? If not, have you considered asking someone to be your prayer partner?

Have you asked God who or what is your prayer assignment?

Podcast Link

If you’d like to listen to the podcast that spurred this post into being, look up “Chrystal Evans Hurst” on iTunes or head to her website here: http://chrystalevanshurst.com/057-a-chat-with-kandis-davis-on-practical-prayer/


  • Sabrina
    September 30, 2015

    So blessed by the podcast. Our women are going through the Kingdom Woman series so I went to Chrystal’s page and found the podcast. It blessed my soul and helped to renew my prayer life in an awesome way. You are the same age as my daughter and I am greatful that my heart was receptive to receive and not be filled with pride because I’ve been on my faith journey for a few years longer than you. Thank you for your honesty and openness to share with us. I have told others about the podcast and they testify the same. Our God is strategic so why would He expect any less from His people. Praying you will continue to be a force to be reckoned with for the kingdom of God. God Bless!

  • Jimeka
    September 12, 2015

    I enjoyed listening to you on Chrystal’s podcast and hearing your transparent reflections and prayer suggestions (I even watched the distractions video). This is my birthday week and it was so refreshing to be charged with new strategies to start this year fresh! Many blessings and answered prayers to you, sis!

  • Amorette
    September 11, 2015

    Hi Kandis!

    I have been listening to Chrystal’s podcasts from the beginning and have truly been continually blessed by her messages. Your interview (and email which led to “you know enough to go”) has been a tremendous (huge) blessing in my life. It has served as a ripple effect because my low moments are now made better because of your prayer suggestions. Your prayer for her listeners was refreshing and was exactly what I needed. Finally, the Death by Distraction blog blessed me beyond measure. I shared your interview and the Death by Distraction with my family and friends. Your words and impartation served as a reverberation of the love and awesomeness of God. I could go on and on, but in short…thank you. I send Chrystal the same messages of thanks, and now I have added you to my list of “inspiration”. Thank you for doing all that you do and not being afraid to live out loud.

  • Myriam
    September 5, 2015

    Love the post. First visited after hearing your podcast from Priscilla.
    So young and so much wisdom. I love the idea of a prayer partner and I do not have one. I will be praying about that.

  • Emonne
    September 4, 2015

    KD!! I could really write a whole blog in response to this (and maybe I will!) but I must say it has been such a blessing to pray with you over the last few years. Our prayer partnership has been a catalyst to my personal prayer life and has built such a beautiful and powerful sisterhood between us! I was just thinking about all of this earlier in the week so to read this post of the same sentiments is extra sweet!!
    So thankful. Love you!

    P.S. Every word & book suggestion (and the podcast of course!) in this post speaks volumes and I’m over here cheering, “Yes & amen!”