Finding Your Voice…And Deciding It Matters

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I have no problem believing that my life matters.

I think finding value in any life is particularly easy.

My struggle lies in believing that my voice matters.

This post is dedicated to all those who feel called to write, speak, rap or sing, yet wrestle with this same belief.

I wish I knew the right words to make you feel validated and affirmed in your gifts and calling, but as I write this, I’m standing in the same shoes as you.

I’m feeling like the world will be just fine if my voice is never heard.

All of life will continue to happen and people will be just fine if I never write another blog post or never write a book or never stand before them with a mic in my hand.

And you may be thinking the same thing:

I’m just another singer.

I’m just another writer.

I’m just another speaker.

I’m just another artist.

I’m just another actress.

There are plenty of people like me.

Actually, no, there are plenty of people BETTER than me.

There are so many choices of voices.

The spot I would fill is already taken.

I hear you and I get it because I’m living it.

And although I’m living it and I feel it as real as day, I’m choosing to push past it and do it anyway.

We have to get to the place where even if we think it’s dumb or invalid, if we know and believe that God is calling us to do something, we do it anyway.

The one, and only reason I’m now choosing to actually acknowledge (and repeat to others) that I hope to write and talk to people for a living, is because I really believe God has placed this desire inside of me— and more than anything, I want to live out His purposes for my life.

Do I personally think MY voice is NEEDED? Not. At. All.

But I know and remember where I’ve come from.

I know who I was 6 years ago when I’d say I don’t ever want to be a speaker or preacher like my mom and dad.

I know how I fought God through sickness and isolation, even considering suicide and other destructive options, because I wanted so badly to forfeit this calling.

I remember how desperate I was for Him to pick someone else to do this because I didn’t want it.

And I know how more recently, I’ve argued, “I’m not needed here. People with this hope and dream come a dime a dozen and probably half of them are more committed to making this dream happen than I am so they deserve it, not me.”

I have now come to realize, I didn’t ask for this—it was placed inside of me.

I didn’t dream of this—it was given to me.

I didn’t desire this—it was chosen for me.

And finally…finally, I believe that His best is THE best.

Finally…finally, I believe I do have something to say.

Finally…finally, I think it’s time for me to take this thing seriously.

Finally…finally, I am okay with saying I am a writer and a speaker and yes, I was born to do this and so much more.

You who bring good news to Zion, go up on a high mountain.

You who bring good news to Jerusalem,

lift up your voice with a shout, lift it up, do not be afraid;

say to the towns of Judah, “Here is your God!” – Isaiah 40:9

And Here’s How It’s Done:

I’d like to take a moment to shout out a few of my friends who are taking some bold steps to release their voices for the first time in new ways.

I’m so ecstatically happy and proud of them and I hope you’ll support them as they chart their new territories! May their steps of faith and obedience inspire you to do exactly the same:

12115907_10154304014139148_8682472806512761038_nJanice Gaines

She’s been like a sister to me since my days of living in Nashville. The thing I admire most about her is her consistency over the years—not just her consistency with people, but for as long as I’ve known her she’s been consistent about knowing the Lord more and more. She recently released her first album! Buy it on iTunes!



Kyle Marshall 12038358_10102488286845124_8518820189578927574_n

This is my dude! I can’t even remember how far we go back but I’d describe him as a confusing blend of greatness. If you’re ever around him and you don’t know him, he could easily fool you into thinking he has good sense and is quiet, but in reality this dude is a nut and if you put him on a stage, you’ll see his gifts soar. He released his first single, Magnify. Click here to get it!


Screen shot 2015-10-21 at 8.04.35 AMJai (Pronounced Jay)

Me and this sister of mine could write a full fledged book of our history. I’m honored to STILL be a part of her life and journey, our friendship/sisterhood now is sweeter than it’s ever been. I hope it continues to get better and better. She just launched her new website and is soon to release her new single after having much success with her self-released solo album, Culture Shock. Check out her new website for more info and stay tuned cause her new single is out in November!


Rheva 12112309_10205734630899045_153701853164212477_n

This is one of my best friends in all the world! She and I too could write an entire book of our history. She’s been a worship leader and working at churches since she was born…well, basically. She’s finally stepping out to record her first EP! She is currently raising money to record and release the Broken EP! Here’s how you can help:


Screen shot 2015-10-21 at 8.51.04 AMEmonne Markland

This is my prayer partner/warrior sister whom I love so dearly. We’ve been praying for this and I’m so excited to see her step out in faith to actually DO it! She has launched a new organization called Leave Your Beauty Mark (LYBM) and she’s hosting her first event called 20/20 on November 21st! It’s a vision summit for young women! Tell your people! They can register their girls FOR FREE here:


Candy West 12143110_657268091081730_7560541982789484880_n

I’ve known Candy for many years so many that I can’t even recall how many. One thing I love about her is that even when I was just a scrub youngster, she was always consistently kind to me. I would always be amazed that she’d acknowledge my existence (and remember my name), even in the presence of “well-known” people. She is genuine and real. And the more I get to know and observe her, now that I’m older, the more and more I admire and like this woman. Candy is recording her first solo project and it’s gonna be live for all to experience! November 13th at Northwood Church in Keller, TX. Go and support! More info here:


If you relate to this post in any way, I’d love to hear from you. Leave a comment below or shoot me an email to You can explain your situation or be general, but I want to commit to praying for you—for us, to get serious about and take action regarding the things God has called us to do and say with our voices.

At the end of this life, we will have to answer for what we did and didn’t do. How great would it be to get to the end of this thing and say, “I did all You called me to do and by Your strength, Father, I did it well.”

  • LAWofford
    May 18, 2016

    Thank you SO much for this…this is my life! Thank you for your honesty. Your words resonate with me on the deepest level.

  • Aletha
    October 25, 2015

    Thank you for being so transparent, Kandis! Since I’ve been blogging more recently, I’ve struggled a little bit with attributing value to my voice as well. As always, I am so excited to see the Lord’s continued work in your life! May He be glorified in all you do!

  • Ebby Lane
    October 21, 2015

    I absolutely love this! Thank you for writing this!

  • MKS
    October 21, 2015

    ALWAYS a blessing!!! Keep doing what you’re doing.

  • Chanique
    October 21, 2015

    Lord this post!!!!
    Thanks for speaking my life!

  • Rhonda
    October 21, 2015

    Ahhhhh! What can I say about this post? So honest and real. Although our paths are different I do feel a calling to write. You know I have a blog, but I feel that God wants me to be a storyteller and write novels to touch people….and I’m terrified! Poetry and blog posts I’m comfortable with – stories are so new and foreign, but I believe that’s where God is leading me. Thank you for this encouraging post! I truly needed to “hear” this!