Confessions of a Rich Girl Livin’ The Good Life

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I was in 7th or 8th grade around the time Brandy’s BEST ALBUM EVER; “Never Say Never” came out. I promise I listened to that album everyday through middle school! Absolutely LOVED it!

But as much as I loved that entire “Never Say Never” album, there was only one song I felt I related to. There was one song that made me feel like I wasn’t alone. It wasn’t one of Brandy’s biggest hits, but “Top of The World” was MY anthem!

When I heard Brandy sing:

Some people say that I’m not the same girl
They say I think that I’m in my own world
What makes them think that I have changed
A little dough cannot erase my problems
Me like you I have to try and solve them
Yes everything is quite the same

I’m just trying to be me
Doing what I got to do
Some people think that I’m
Just sittin on top of the world

Always in someone’s eye so many questions ‘why?’
How is it to be down with me with me?
Afraid to express myself always me and someone else
I need to be free but it’s not that easy

I thought me and her were gonna meet and become best friends! Lol

You see at this point of my life, my Dad’s ministry was beginning to take off. I moved from the city and neighborhood I’d lived in since the day I was born to a new city about 20 minutes away, into a house about 4x the size of the old one.

Yes, we were “movin’ on up,” as some might say! But moving up meant leaving everything I’d ever known. No longer would my best friend since Kindergarten live two houses down. No longer could my brother and me play with our friends in the neighborhood, or sneak down the street to the Candy Lady’s house to buy a giant pickle and some Now-and-Laters (Shh! Don’t tell my mom!). No longer could we ride our bikes down the alley playing cops and robbers…matter fact, we no longer even had an alley! We now had an acre of grass and trees behind us! No other houses were even next to ours!

I can’t remember exactly how the transition from having the same friends from birth-to-12yrs to being in a new city and knowing no one went, but I distinctly remember identifying with this Brandy song!

Based on things my peers had said, comments I’d heard in passing and the new life I was experiencing, I remember feeling like everyone thought I was rich and had the perfect life.

Fast-forward 13 years

and here I sit tonight feeling the same sentiments. I realize that people think I have a perfect and amazing life. I still know people to this day, who refer to me as “rich,” “a mogul,” and all sorts of things, that I totally know are not true about me.

No matter how much I’ve tried to convince people differently, for the past 13 years, the truth is: I have yet to successfully convince many people, if any at all, that their perceptions of me are wrong. At this point in life, I’m pretty much sure, you can’t control the way people perceive you. Even if you tell them something’s not true, until they think it’s not true, they still won’t believe you. *Shrugs shoulders* Tis life!

What I have learned is, no matter how “together” my life seems, no matter how many gifts and talents I seem to possess or how many people know my family or me, one fact remains…none of that stuff matters and none of it satisfies!

The bottom line? My existence is pointless without HIM.

(Ecclesiastes 3:19-21)

The second bottom line? I’m incomplete without HIM.

(1 Corinthians 1:26-31)

The third bottom line? I’m giving it ALL to HIM!

(Romans 12:1)

We can be surprised together when “giving it ALL” leads me to a place neither of us expected!

On second thought, how about you join me and we enjoy our rides together? Let’s GO!!!!!!

Feel free to comment or share if you’d like! And read those scriptures up there! They’re DOPE!


  • Fortune
    July 18, 2011

    I love your humble way of looking at life. You are very beautiful, very humble and down to Earth. Nothing could be more inspiring and admirable.

    One thing you just need to accept and celebrate is that yes you are rich. Being rich is not a bad thing and it’s something that God Himself brought us – it’s one of the reasons Jesus came to die for us.

    Just carry on being your lovable, humble, beautiful self. If anyone has a problem with you being rich tell them to query their concerns with God and remind them about 2Corinthians 8:9 – “For ye know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that, though he was rich, yet for your sakes he became poor, that ye through his poverty might be rich.”

  • Rev. Jeff Young
    September 30, 2010

    I’ve watched you grow up literally, and know all too well about perceptions. :) I for one am very proud that you (like Paul) have a grounded reality that allows you to reflect on both the abasement and the abundance and realize that to Live is Christ. With abundant blessing comes much greater responsibilities. God has been good to me (especially consiering my history, which was changed by HISstory) and lots of people seem to assume that I’ve “Got it Made” too. What’s truely sad to me is that the same ones who think we have it easy are unable to understand that we are blessed because of humility, loyalty, sincerity, & ensuring that GOD gets the glory, yet that does not abstract or excuse us from lifes trouble. What’s even more troubling is that folks don’t see that they can have and do all that they “Perceive” in others if they simply follow the same precepts. Read Philippians 4 !!!

  • FFFfirst
    September 30, 2010

    Great post. I remember going thru a similar situation, and as a teen, feeling like I had to prove myself to people, who now are not even a part of my life. My sight was so limited. But now I realize that I am the person that God wants me to be for now, and that’s all that matters. Who’s to say what God will do in the future, but for now, I’ve accepted myself as I am- quirks and all. That went way off subject LOL, but I’ll close with this, continue to let God be able to use you and bless thru you– I believe there are mighty things in store. God Bless.

    Faith, Family, Friends first

  • Mom
    September 30, 2010

    As long as you live, people will have their own perceptions & expectations of you. Bottom line – Be your true self – the person God made you to be. You live for the applause of one – Your Heavenly Father…..well maybe 3, your dad and I too. lol. Love you.

  • ProVerbs
    September 27, 2010

    Perception can be a disease sometimes. One person gets the idea and it tends to spread like wild flowers (I don’t even know what that means lol…it just seem to fit…but you get me…”rapidly”), but being humble & staying grounded is an amazing focal point & through this blog, it seems as though you have maintained that through the Word. Recognizing that He’s the reason…maybe “GOD in Me” by Mary Mary should be your theme song (if you’re not tired of that song by now lol). Anyway, just keep it up sis, keep looking unto Jesus and giving your talents to Him, because He’s using you to do amazing things in the kingdom!

    P.S. lol Top of The World was the jam!

  • Nina
    September 24, 2010

    Hey Kandis, I love your message. Just continue to be you. See, I was one of those people you physically left when you had to leave the neighborhood. However, our (you & I) unwavering dedication to friendship has withstood the test of time. In life we move on and do what we have to do, but one thing remains: The spirit of Christ in our hearts. No matter what people say or do to us we are alike in many ways because wherever life takes us we take Him!

  • Hakim
    September 24, 2010

    I love it!

  • Markeetia
    September 24, 2010

    O-K-A-Y lil sis….THIS was MY favorite song on this album too esp…the intro to MASE:-) Yep,I used to dance to it in the mirror (yes, @27yrs old I was still jammin’ in front of the mirror)…the rest of my post is quite personal, so check your inbox tonight! In the meantime, DO U, continue to let HIM guide U and turn the rest ova! ~Muah

  • Shandra Summerville
    September 24, 2010


    Thank you so much for posting this. I believe that this is an awesome. This is a great perspective and trust me I feel you.